Transgresija u vezi

Transgresija u intimnom odnosu označava situacije u kojima jedan od učesnika krši implicitna ili eksplicitna pravila te veze. O tome šta se može smatrati transgresijom postoje različita mišljenja kod ljudi - za neke to predstavlja eksplicitno kršenje "pravila", dok su za neke to postupci koji implicitno nanose štetu ili emocionalnu bol jednom od partnera, dok je najčešći i najeksplicitniji oblik transgresije preljuba.

Uobičajeni oblici prestupa su sledeći: upoznavanje sa drugima, želja za druženjem s drugima, seks sa drugima, obmanjivanje nečijeg partnera, flert sa nekim drugim, ljubljenje sa nekim drugim, čuvanje tajni, emocionalno povezivanje sa nekim drugim i izdavanje partnerovog poverenja.

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